Following on from my post about NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), I want to talk about smear campaigns. Of course, not everyone who embarks upon a smear campaign is a 'narc' - some are just people with a very shaky grasp on the truth, wishing to show themselves in a better light by throwing shade at others.
Dr Les Carter (an authority on narcissism), says:
"The name of the game for the narcissist is dominance and power... they can be very fluid with truth, and so you might ask, 'Well, how am I going to respond to this? Do I need to just go out to my public and defend myself, when I know that this kind of campaign is being taken against me?'Â And sometimes the answer is 'Yes'..."
I was recently alerted to a podcast in which there's something of a character assassination on me. Having once been in the public eye, albeit briefly, it goes with the territory that you will be 'discussed', but it feels unnecessary for an interviewer to take such an irresponsibly tabloid approach, while their interviewee responds by enthusiastically spilling fake beans.
Back in the 90s when promoting my post-AAE Mice album, the question of what I'd been doing while in the 'wilderness' came up in an interview. I answered, candidly, mentioning that at one point I was a cleaner in a studio.
Almost a quarter of a century later, the interviewer resurrected this and asked their interviewee for their thoughts.
It is important to note that I am certainly not inferring that either of the people involved in this exchange are narcissists, but there is certainly an element of smear campaign about this.
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Excerpt from the Q&A.
Q: Back in the mid 90s, Julianne formed the band called 'Mice', which has not the greatest record cover, I have to say... It was a bit... It wasn't that inspirational... I remember her saying that when she left All About Eve, she didn't have any... One minute you're playing at the Royal Albert Hall, the next minute she was cleaning the studio because she didn't have any money. And I remember thinking, 'How come you didn't have any money left after that experience?'Â - Â Is that the case, that with a band you kind of think, 'My God'Â and one minute you're playing Glastonbury, in the top 10 with various albums and singles, then when it all finishes you think, 'Shit! I've got no cash! How am I gonna pay the rent? I need to get another job.'
A: What can I say about that? Erm...what I would say is...that's a lie... It's an absolute lie. You know, I used to invest in gear for the band, like, all sorts of stuff, you know, guitars, you know, anything. It could be anything. They used to spend it on their mortgage... And that's why I'm pissed off, for stuff like that. That's just a load of crap. Generally you get an amount of money then you pay yourself extra on the excess. 'I've got no money'? So what? Bullshit. Sorry.
Q: (Laughs)
A: And I don't actually care if you put this out, you know, 'cause it's bullshit. Just stop complaining! It's like... Stop it. Stop complaining. Shut your... Shut your mouth. You know, just stop it. Stop it. Stop complaining. (Laughs).
Q: Yeah.
A: What I find, you know, people moan and moan and moan, and it's just like...'Will you shut up!?'Â
Q: (Laughs)
A: I don't fuckin' understand!
Q: But then you play on a couple of songs for that particular project, on Mice.
A: Yes. Yes I did. Look, I was... You know, you always look back, it's like retrospect. How did I feel about that? I wanted to be involved 'cause Julianne asked me to be involved, so I did four songs, I think. It was like...a surreal experiment to me. I was going into it blind. I wasn't going into it thinking even like, I'm helping Julianne out, 'cause I were just thinking, 'Well yeah, this'll be alright, you know. Fine!' I got no reward. There's like, two or three songs on the Mice album that I think are fantastic; mainly the ones that I played on. (Laughs).
Q: (Laughs). Excellent.
A: (Laughs) Which is weird. I just wanted to help Julianne out, that's all, even though she'd deserted my fuckin' band! But honestly, I just wanted to help her out...
Q: Yes.
A: Because that's what I'm like.
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Granted, this isn't the front cover of The S*n, but to paraphrase X Files,  the untruth is out there.
If you take the interview at face value, then I am a liar who squandered any money she may have had on (looks at notes) her mortgage. I also 'deserted' the band, and apparently, I don't pay session player fees.
Seems I should stop moaning and complaining; in fact I should 'shut my mouth'. And the interviewer and the interviewee? Oh, how they laughed.
This podcast is just an example, the tip of an iceberg of misinformation. You might have heard that I'm a bit of a diva, a bit difficult, a bit awkward, and that's the type of criticism that gets aimed at those who feel the need to fight their corner, especially when they are women. Being assertive isn't very 'feminine', is it?
So have a 'laff' lads, titter away at how you don't believe that after having played The Royal Albert Hall I ended up as a 'job seeker' doing cleaning part-time in order to top up my unemployment benefit. (And yes, of course, I declared the earnings because I am a socialist.)
In the words of Dr Les Carter, am I going to defend myself? Once the untruths are out there, they tend to become written in stone. However, there is such a thing as a wrecking ball and the question is around whether to ever use it.
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